After reaching the age of 18 months the babies enter the "no" area, you can offer him his favorite food as he can nod and say "no, no, no!", He can respond to whatever you say with " not".
Maybe you never imagined your baby would get defensive with you and oppose anything. But these "no's" are not acts of disobedience or non-cooperation, but represent a healthy declaration of independence. "Around the age of 12 months, there is a dynamic leap in the mental and physical capabilities of the baby," says Claire B. Kopp, author of the book "Baby steps." The baby begins to discover "I can do many things and I want to try them."
It tests its limits but not in a malicious way.
In fact, a baby's one-year-olds are no longer said in the play. She begins to recognize a powerful world and experiences it - the "no" girl at all, but she does so by laughing and smiling.
This negative attitude may not appear at the age of 12 months, but sooner or later it will appear. Through his negations he also expresses his identity in continuous development.
You could refuse almost anything, even some clothes that you want to wear, do not get angry, think that by showing your preferences and overthrowing yours, the baby learns to make decisions and to think for him. His refusal is actually a normal sign that he feels safe. He begins to seek emotional support, which he needs to explore the world around him. ”
Most of the time your impulse is to ignore these refusals of his. The best thing is to try to decode what he feels, what he wants. Sometimes, due to the fact that his ability to express himself is limited, he uses the word "no". For him, this word is easy and familiar, so he will use it every time he cannot express his feelings. Try to figure out what he really wants to express then put his wishes in words and suggest alternatives. For example, if he refuses to cut his nails, you can tell him “I'm afraid I might hurt you. Look we cut my own first to see that it is in order ”
Let him choose
The best way to trust him is to let him make some decisions alone. But keep in mind that too many options is too much for him. For example, if he does not want to color on the kitchen table next to you, you can tell him this way: "We can color here or we can play outside with lego. What do you prefer?"
Be a role model for him
It is known that one-year-old babies perfectly copy those around them so you try to limit the use of the word "no". If he always hears from you that you say "no" he will copy you and he will use that word too. You can use other words when you want to warn him not to do something, such as: "stop", "danger", "hot". Replace with positive phrases when you have objections to what you do.
If you raise your voice or threaten very rarely you can change a no into a yes. In fact, if you act negatively and nervously you will cause the baby to be even more negative in the future.
So it is best to avoid aggressively exercising your power. Better move with him to another room, tickle him, kiss him to forget what is distracting him. Have fun together, always the fun helps to cooperate with the babies. If the baby does not want to put his socks on, play with the socks as if some dolls are missing friends: the fingers.
When you say "no" explain why. Tell him "You have to wear a hat to keep you cool" and then you can explain the consequences or how he will be rewarded "If you keep it on your head, we will stay longer in the park. If you do not want to wear it then we will come home faster so that it is not cold to you. ”
Tell him once that you don't want to do it and then be calm. Your child will understand that there are limits to testing. When he cooperates with you, don't forget to reward him. Encouragement and patience are the keys that change no.