Young children, between the ages of 1 and 3, express their feelings and emotions in a different way than adults. Although at this age they become very vocal and tell you exactly what they want to eat, where they want to stay and what they want to do, when it comes to their feelings they have difficulty expressing what they feel.
We present to you a small guide of the gestures that the little ones make and what they actually mean:
1. The child does not look you in the eye
Translation: "Mi-e rusine"
When the little ones avoid looking at you, they feel ashamed. It may be about a time when you turned his attention to him and he doesn't want everyone to look at him or he may be embarrassed because of a little Nazdravan that he did and that upset you.
Tell them that you understand how it feels by pulling it out of the spotlight or explaining to them that everyone is sometimes wrong. If you are embarrassed about something wrong, tell them that it is extremely important to find solutions.
2. He wants to take all the extra animals in bed with him
Translation: "Mi-e frica"
Until recently, your child went to bed alone without problems, but suddenly he wants all the toys in bed with him. The fear of sleeping alone in the room has settled with its cognitive development. The child has a rich imagination and thinks of the most unfortunate scenarios, especially when it is safe. Family objects, such as plush toys, make him feel lonely when he is asleep or when he wakes up at night.
Do not try to get all his toys by telling him that he has grown up and that he should not fear the darkness or sleep alone. It is a passing time and no matter how hard you try to tell him that nothing will happen, your fear will persist. The best solution is to put him in front of a choice, instead of all the toys, he can take up to 5 beds.
3. When you meet a new person, they hide their face
Translation: "I am uneasy"
We can draw a parallel between what children feel in such situations and how we adults feel when we are present at a social event and we do not know anyone around. We feel a sense of anxiety and discomfort and the same thing is felt by children when you take him to a place where you meet new people. Either they hide their face by lifting their shirt over their face, or playing with their clothes.
Children watch parents' reactions to determine the situation, so you should be relaxed and smile. Handle it lightly on the back or forehead to give it assurance that everything is fine.
4. Become a spoiled child - throw food, spoil toys, hit other people
Translation: "I am upset" or "I need attention"
It is difficult for a parent to see how adorable and comfortable their child has suddenly turned into a clock bomb that scream, throw and hit the children at the playground. It is important to understand that the way the child behaves is a reaction to a current situation. Children with such behavior hide dissatisfaction with what is happening in their lives.
Analyzes situations objectively and determines what is the cause of its dissatisfaction. He may be upset because you do not spend enough time with him or maybe someone from kindergarten causes inconvenience. Try to change the situations that make you unhappy or, if you do not identify a problem, try to impose your authority and explain to them that you will not solve anything with such behavior.
5. He looks ugly or hurries when he asks for something
Translation: "I want it now!"
Children have no patience and treat every little requirement of theirs as a matter of survival. Will they eat now? If the meal is not set in a few minutes, this may trigger an exaggerated reaction.
You must understand that at this age children do not have the ability to self-control yet. Therefore, if they feel a physical need that is not met in the shortest time, they cannot control their dissatisfaction.
One solution in this case is not to rush yourself to satisfy every desire. Instead of making superhuman efforts, explain that you have heard what he said and that you are dealing with it. Tell her what steps you will take until you take care of her requirements. For example: "Your mother will finish the dishes, wipe her hands, open the fridge and then cut a banana."
By insisting that the child wait until you have something else to do, you teach the child what is patience, and it will be of great use to them later, in school, in adolescence and then in adulthood.
6. Shout out "No, my mom!" when another child approaches you
Translation: "I want more attention"
Such behavior can highlight the fact that your little one feels he has no part in you and would always like to spend more time together than he would like. This reaction is especially common in children who have a new younger sibling or whose parents are absent due to work.
At the same time, there is a stage in the life of young children when they are extremely possessive both with their family members and with their belongings because at this stage the children connect their self-image with the things and the people around them, and the parents are the most important people for him.
In the face of such a reaction, the best answer is to hug your child and tell him that you are always with him, even if you sometimes go to work or do other tasks. Repeat this whenever it is needed, in order for the message to reach it.
At the same time, you can explain to him the importance of altruism. Tell him that even though you're his mother, that doesn't mean you can't talk to other children. In addition, explain to him that this does not mean that you will deprive him of your attention.
Does your child have such reactions? What do you think about the solutions I have proposed to you? Have you tried them? Write to us about your parenting experience in the comments section below!
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