- What should be the attitude of a parent when the child goes to kindergarten? (my daughter Miruna is 5 years old and goes to kindergarten this fall). I can say that my emotions, as a parent are very great because I tried to take Miruna to kindergarten and in the spring, but she did not accommodate and refused to force me to go, and as a parent I refused to take her again. impressing me very much with her reactions. Thank you for the early reply!Answer:
Starting kindergarten is a major change in the life of any child. But everyone has a different perception of this. For some children it is a challenge, a pleasure to get involved with other children in collective activities, while for others it is a real stress.
You parents must find out the reasons for the child's refusal to go to kindergarten. I am curious how many days attended the kindergarten Miruna? What were her reactions that impressed you so much? How did the girl motivate the refusal to go to kindergarten? What didn't he like there?
Every child observes that his attitude and behavior influence the behavior of his parents. Some of the children even get to specialize in the conditioning of their parents, especially if the latter allow it.
Well, a child needs to be ready for kindergarten. His information begins with a period of time before this happens. The kindergarten should be presented as a very beautiful thing that happens in the life of any child.
"All the children are happy to go to kindergarten because there they do all kinds of beautiful things together, they learn a lot, they play with all kinds of toys they don't have at home, and they learn new games. Kindergarten helps them grow faster because then go to school. "
It is preferable to visit the kindergarten and observe the rectiilecopil. If he likes the place then just register it at that kindergarten.
If, in the first days of attending kindergarten, the child cries or even cries for parents, they should not be scared.
Explain to the child that you are coming after a while to take it. Show the clock at the kindergarten at what time this will happen (by the position of the clock languages). Tell him that he will feel great here, urging him to play with the other children. Leave it to the educator's care.
· Do not start crying with your child.
· Do not be impressed by his behavior, answer all the time smiling to convey a state of calm and confidence.
If you reason with his behavior being scared and disheveled the child will think that you really leave him to leave him in a bad place. This is the "translation" of your attitude.
·Listen to the educator's advice.
He has experience in such situations. Her approach will be successful only on the condition that you proceed exactly as she advises you.
· If you ask her to leave because the little girl stays in her care, listen to her!
Don't hang around the door trying to see your baby or hear if he is crying!
· Do not load yourself with feelings of guilt, thinking that you are a bad mother because you "leave" the little girl in distress there.
You are not a bad mother, but just a mother who helps her child to become autonomous and more independent. Autonomy is an indispensable ingredient of the harmonious development of the child's personality.
Children have a great capacity for adaptation but parents must let them discover it! So release Miruna from your emotions and give her the freedom to experience her own emotions. Even if in the beginning it will externalize the anger, maybe even the despair, in a short time it will discover the pleasure of sharing the joy with the other children.
Diana Paula Stoian,
Specialist in Child Psychology