The bad behavior of the child is, in the opinion of many psychologists, a sign that the little one is developing properly and learning new skills. Hitting, throwing, screaming or biting are not only behavioral problems caused by spoilage, lack of education or discipline, as many people consider, but also a sign of evolution.
There are signs or positive aspects of your child's bad behaviors! It is important to learn how to exploit and develop them in the education of the child, while being careful to correct their inappropriate behavior! We teach you how!
Mentions of the child at a young age, a sign of intellectual and emotional development
Each time the child conceals lies, your first impulse is to annoy yourself, to tell them in front of your mind and then to punish them. It is time to look beyond appearances and observe the positive aspects behind these lies.
In order for your little one to "sell your donuts" with which you have already grown accustomed, it requires advanced intellectual development, a degree of empathy and a lot of creativity and imagination.
As the child begins to lie at a younger age, the more he or she seems to be intellectually gifted. It seems that a child who begins to distort the truth at the age of 2-3 anisors tends to have an IQ above average.
In addition, lies require some organization and communication skills on the part of the child, but also the ability to control their actions for the proposed purpose. In addition, the child must show instinct and intuition, because he needs to figure out how much of the truth you know, to remove obvious information and to make a lie as credible as possible in front of you.
Punishment and reprimand of the child are not useful in such cases. Specialists advise you to always emphasize the importance of truth in front of the child and to use examples and situations to support the value of truth. Remember that, at an early age, chicks learn from experience and examples.
The child's indifferent behavior towards you, a sign of social development
Do you feel that as the day goes by, the child distances himself from you and begins to ignore you, in favor of other people around him or his playmates? It can be frustrating for you, but it is beneficial for the child. There comes a time in childhood when each child breaks free from the mother's skirt, gains autonomy and becomes more interested in the company of others.
The first steps in this regard are from the preschool age, when the child begins to spend more time with others than with you. It is an excellent way for the child to develop social skills and connect friends.
It is the period when he is fascinated by everything the other children of his age do. It is important to let him explore the groups of children and not interfere in the way he interacts, except when the situation becomes dangerous and the children are in danger. Let them try to resolve their conflicts alone and discover what friendship means.
However, there are important times when you need the little one to listen to you and pay attention to you. Don't yell at him and don't rush him if he ignores your requests. Be calm and adopt a friendly tone.
Do not scream from a distance or from another room, but go to him, in the middle of the children, to ask him to finish the game in less than 5 minutes, as it is time to go to bed or sleep. Pray for him beautifully every time, and if you don't, explain to him that there are consequences if he doesn't listen to you.
Aggressive behavior - a sign of social evolution, nonverbal language and self-control
No matter how much you want to not have to go through the situation when your child is bumped into another playmate or colleague, such experiences are inevitable in childhood. Moreover, they are part of the normal development of the child, up to a certain age.
Psychologists claim that engaging the child in games or violent actions requires mastering important skills. In addition, I subject him to experiences from which he learns, over time, a lot of new things: impulse control, finding his own resources to calm down, etc.
Even if it is not the most enjoyable method by which the child learns something about nonverbal language, conflicts are situations in which the child learns about the behaviors and intentions the opponent has.
Do not intervene as soon as the child engages in a more aggressive game. Do it only when you feel like the situation is out of control or in danger (for example, run through the house with another child, push and hit each other in football, etc.). This does not mean that you have to accept such manifestations in the child's behavior and discipline.
It is important to explain why violence and aggression are not ways to achieve success in a game or to solve problems. But don't be overprotective with it. Do not intervene at the slightest sign of aggression, especially if the little one is not in danger!
The departing child, a sign of moral conscience and caring for others
The spoiled child is ostracized in the group of friends and the one to whom no one develops any secrets, because it is "broken mouth". Even if you see a benefit in this behavior of the child, because he always comes and tells you what happens to others (less with him) and what problems and dangerous situations they get into, it is not a behavior they should encourage him in his discipline.
However, when he starts to leave, the child shows moral conscience. He begins to differentiate between good and bad and to recognize certain dangerous situations in which others might be.
To take care of them and protect them, the child comes and informs you about such situations, because he knows that only you are able to take the right measures.
Have you ever tried to see the positive aspects of bad child behavior? What did you find out? Tell us your opinions and tips in the comments section below!
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