If you have a large family, blessed with several children, it is important to share your time, love and attention equally among all the siblings. Fraternal rivalry and jealousy are the main dangers to which the relationship between children is predisposed, if you do not care to treat them equally. However, children also need individual attention. We teach you how to devote time separately to each child, without the risk of envy and jealousy between siblings!
Use the passions and interests of your children!
Follow your children carefully to find out their passions and interests. For example, one may be interested in cooking and join you frequently in the kitchen, while another loves to hang out with you through the shops, shopping. In these cases, it transforms the activities for which each one has an interest in the individual times granted to each child.
While a brother is playing on the computer or doing his homework, get closer to the child he likes to cook and get to know him better while preparing the meal. Then, when the time comes for shopping sessions, take the other child with you and pay him the individual attention he needs. Such a division of your time and attention between brothers combats the risk of rivalry and jealousy between them.
Plan themed evenings for you and your kids!
Make a calendar at the beginning of each month and invent a family tradition. Set up and schedule girls 'nights (in which you will be just a little girl), boys' evenings (the boy with the boy) and mixed nights (you with the boy and the girl with the boy).
If you are organized and careful in how you plan these moments, everyone will be pleased, without the little ones having the impression that they are neglected by any of the parents.
Plan weekend trips in two!
From time to time, plan short trips in two so that you and your dad can spend more time with each brother individually. For example, plan fishing weekends and hikes for dad and boy, then a few days of relaxation for you and baby, etc.
Use small 1-2 day trips to get closer to each child and get to know him better.
Take advantage of the children's evening routine!
Each child's evening routine involves a lot of activities to be witnessed or actively involved in - bathing, dressing up, listening to music, reading stories, talking between four eyes, etc.
If, until now, you prefer to take care of one child and the father of the other to put them to bed, it is time to alternate roles from time to time, so that you spend more time with each child separately.
It also depends on spontaneity!
Even if you have to be careful when you decide to give your children individual time, sometimes spontaneity is a better solution. Not all the times you spend separate time with the child should be planned in detail. Sometimes, these moments tend to come on their own.
Generally, children share themselves among their parents when they want to play or do various activities with them. For example, the boy can keep company with his father when he repairs something around the house, and the little girl can join you in the kitchen, cooking, without you planning these activities. Take advantage of these moments to spend quality time with each of them.
Involve them in separate cleaning activities!
The involvement of children in the cleaning of the house is essential since the first years, being one of the methods by which the little ones learn to be independent and responsible. Divide your family into two teams - you with the girl, the father with the boy - and assign tasks to each one separately.
In this way, the child will help you clean at the same time as you have the opportunity to know yourself better. From time to time, change teams so that you spend individual time with each of the brothers.
How many children do you have and how do you manage to divide your time and responsibilities so as to give them individual attention? Tell us your secrets in the comment section below!
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