Time-out discipline or silence breaks in disciplining children have been used as a punitive method for children when they behave badly. Usually these have been associated with his well-known references to the "corner of punishment". Specialists argue that they should be introduced to children's discipline only when positive discipline has not paid off in solving those behavioral problems. Find out why!
Time-out in disciplining children
According to the pediatricians, child discipline is divided into 3 main elements:
- creating a learning and growth environment that offers comfort and safety;
- the proactive (positive) strategy to determine the child how to behave;
- the "reactive" strategy regarding the applied (punitive) methods for ceasing inappropriate behavior in children.
Time-outs or silence breaks have long been part of the reactive strategy of child discipline. But experts argue that you should use a little more care this trick of discipline and come up with a plan when you resort to this trick and especially determine exactly what situations to approach it.
Opinions for and against
- offers the child the chance to calm down after an attack of anger;
- it also gives you a chance to calm yourself down a bit and prevents you from acting recklessly by yelling or assaulting the child in some way;
- they can reduce from the negative behavior of the child (especially if you reward the good behavior of the child, but there are still signs of bad behavior);
- breaks can increase the stress, anxiety and frustration levels of the child (it involves isolation, fear, fear, etc.);
- in some cases these may further accentuate the child's inappropriate behavior (true hysteria crises can emerge, but if you stay in positions in your decisions, they may work).
When to use silence breaks?
As I said, if the positive approach of disciplining the child fails, then the specialists argue that it is advisable to resort to the small time-out trick.
It is good that this rest of the child should be used as one of the tactics to reassure the child and give him a little thought about what he did other than as a punishment. For example, it is advisable to tell the child "I want you to go to your room now, and when you calm down, come back to talk".
How to effectively use time-out in disciplining the child?
Explain to them what the role of these breaks is!
Even when you are in direct conflict and you tell him to go to stay in the room, you can express yourself specifically, showing what the role of the break is and what your expectations are from him. For example, tell him "If you don't calm down and listen to what I want to tell you (your expectations from him), then you're going to be alone in the room (consequence).
Give him a little warning!
Tell the child exactly what you think is unacceptable or inappropriate in his behavior and that if he doesn't calm down or stop doing something else, then you will use the time-out method. If it doesn't calm down, put in small threat!
Choose the appropriate space in the house for applying the time-out strategy!
Many parents choose the "corner" of the house or a chair to make room for punishment and silence. The specialists argue that the best place for the time-out strategy is the room. Even though the little one finds more places to distract them, they say that toys and other familiar things help them calm down more easily and relax, which is ultimately the goal of the strategy.
How long should a time-out take?
Psychologists argue that the time spent in the space of the child's silence must be directly proportional to the age. Therefore, they advise you to keep the child in such a place as many hands as his age. For example, if the child is 5 years old - the period is 5 minutes, if he has 8 anisors, then the number increases to 8 etc.
Tags Discipline of children Positive discipline of children Behavior of children