The independence of the child begins to be present long before the age of 6 months. Its development involves going through specific stages that can be misinterpreted by parents. They will have the impression that they are naughty and obedient, when in fact the little ones are trying to gain their autonomy. Here are ways of manifestation and how it develops over time!
The first signs of independence
Even before talking and expressing the wishes of the little one shows the "cornerstones" of independence. Specialists claim that the first appears around the age of 6 months, when they begin to perceive themselves as unique, individual persons. He translates into behavior through crying.
The crying of the child when both parents leave his room and remain alone is a sign of separation anxiety. This is a sign and as he begins to realize his own person, he wants to try different things by himself, but he is not yet sure if he has to and can do, so he needs mommy and dad around him.
By 7-8 months, the signs are becoming more and more obvious: he wants to take your teaspoon from his hand when you feed him to try to eat alone, he goes to bed or crawls to the basket with toys to get his take your favorite toy, etc.
The first steps
The biggest sign of the desire for independence is the autonomy in movements that most babies are capable of until they reach the age of 1 year.
Even before taking the first steps alone, his repeated attempts to get up, to climb the crib (useless though) are signs that the little boy wants to become master of his own movements and choices.
Around 18 months, your little one already has a lot of skills and is capable of doing things on his own. But the development of language is another stage in the development of the independence of young children.
As long as you learn the key words and phrases from you, that of asking for water, the pope or a particular toy, it begins to manifest its wants and needs as it needs to explore the environment.
It is important to let him explore the environment and give him enough freedom to test various experiences with caution and in safe conditions.
The fits of anger are natural to the young child and occur around the age of 2 years. It is the moment when the child wants to do everything as he wants, which can take you by surprise and unpreparedness. His refusal leads to real crisis of hysteria.
His requests may be absurd or slightly dangerous, but it is important to remember that a small bump or a light spell is sometimes necessary and useful to help the child "ride" and gain ground in gaining independence, so necessary at maturity.
Between 2 and 3 years the child begins to show more and more signs of independence and will fight hard to win it, by any means. It will test its own limits, but also yours when it begins to paint the walls of the house or make other nuances specific to the "age of destruction. He goes, talks and has the ability to express wishes and make choices: what to wear, what to eat, etc.
At preschool age, the little ones go through a dilemma and are confused. They still do not realize how much they need independence, so they take a few steps in this direction and then withdraw again into the safe and comfortable arms of his mom and dad.
By this age, children overcome the anxiety of separation, and the sense of their own identity becomes contoured. It is the period when he discovers the game with other children, speaks fluently and has a quite rich vocabulary and is able to use the pot without the need of help from parents.
Starting with 4 years, the little girl is getting more and more autonomy: she dresses without help, she learns to brush her teeth alone, to put her own meal alone (cereals in a bowl, simple activities).
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